Have you come across “Untamed” by Glennon Doyle?
It is a story of Glennon’s life with some wonderful lessons for all of us on how to move from striving to be a “perfect person” to understanding and accepting ourselves.

The author describes sensations of being “caged” in by the world that dictates to people ( especially women) how to be and act. Glennon takes us on a journey to freedom (which, by the way, will look very different for each of us). It highlights how sometimes we build our lives by following external “memo’s” and slowly “killing” ourselves inside.
That book gave me courage to relook at my own values, boundaries, and decide which are truly mine, which I borrowed from external “memos”, which are outdated and which ones I love to live by.
Consider a quote: ”My children do not need me to save them, my children need me to save myself”.
The next time you are thinking of sacrificing your own interests or not taking care of yourself, please remember that quote. It reminded me of what Carl Jung said. “The greatest burden a child must bear is the unlived life of its parents”.